Finding the Gold, Not the Dirt: The Heart of Kingdom Friendships

Have you ever noticed how some people just seem to sparkle more brightly when they’re around certain friends? It’s not coincidence – it’s the power of Kingdom friendship at work. These precious relationships have a way of drawing out the gold that God has deposited within each of us, even when it’s buried beneath layers of doubt or disappointment.

Let’s talk about what it means to be a friend who finds the gold, not the dirt. This isn’t about wearing rose-colored glasses or ignoring reality. It’s about choosing to see others through Heaven’s perspective – to recognize the divine deposits within them that are waiting to be discovered and celebrated.

When I look at my own circle of friends, I’m overwhelmed with gratitude for those who consistently choose to see the best in me. These are the women who, even in my moments of struggle or uncertainty, remind me of who God says I am. They’re the ones who can look at a seemingly impossible situation and say, “But God…” with such conviction that my faith rises to meet theirs.

This kind of friendship doesn’t just happen by accident. It’s cultivated through intentional choices to honor, value, and champion one another. It requires us to actively resist the cultural tendency to criticize or compare, choosing instead to be spiritual gold-miners in each other’s lives.

Think about your own friendship circle for a moment. Are you surrounded by people who are actively looking for the gold in your life? Do they assume the best about your intentions, even when your actions might be misunderstood? These questions aren’t just about feeling good – they’re about positioning ourselves in relationships that align with God’s perspective of us.

The truth is, who we surround ourselves with matters deeply to God. Our relationships shape not just our daily experiences, but our destiny. When we choose to connect with people who see us through Heaven’s lens, we create an environment where God’s purposes can flourish unhindered by doubt or negativity.

Let’s make a commitment today: to be the kind of friend who consistently looks for and calls out the gold in others. To create spaces where love wins, where honor prevails, and where God’s perspective shapes our view of one another.

Your challenge: Take a moment to identify someone in your life who consistently finds the gold in you. Now, be that person for someone else this week. Look intentionally for the divine deposits within them and find a way to call it out specifically and meaningfully.

Remember, in Kingdom friendships, we’re not just looking for surface-level positivity – we’re mining for eternal gold. And when we find it, we have the privilege of showing it to the world, creating a testimony of God’s faithfulness in the lives of those we love.